Before I even clicked to open her email I knew what she was going to say. I hadn’t heard from her for some time after she at the last minute canceled her personal business plan meeting with me due to being “too tired.” The meeting where I was going to provide her with the guidance she needed in order to get her business off to a running start.
Her email read as follows:
“Hello Lena. Hope you are well. I have now decided to leave [the business]. It was a big mistake to join, you make it very complicated to understand it and I also have been doing some scam check ups. So I do not want to be part of it anymore, it was absolutely waste of spending money on this, and I don´t see how to make money on it. (…) It’s same thing, and lots of confusing emails. Anyway, I can´t see how this will work. Best, Greta.”
(Greta, of course, is not her real name.)
Okay…You see it as clearly as I do…a laundry list of excuses.
Now before joining me in my business, Greta sat on the fence for a really long time. She just couldn’t seem to decide whether to go for it or not. When the right opportunity presented itself (in the form of a discounted start-up offer), she finally decided to “give it a try”. I told her she should only do it if she was absolutely committed to making it work, and that her success was ultimately up to her… And I guess with that the fear of loss kicked in, because shortly thereafter she was on board with me.
Okay, I thought, let’s give her a chance: I want to believe in people. I believe that if you nurture someone’s greatness, they can in fact become spectacular. And Greta was great in so many ways: a quick learner, good posture on the phone, good work ethics, bright, independent, and with a solid “why” it seemed: A newborn daughter she wanted to stay home with and schedule her days around.
But as soon as she got started, Greta was complaining about how much there was to learn, how “difficult” and ‘confusing” everything was.
The real issue was that she was afraid…she was afraid of failure. Which is why it took her so long to get started in the first place. As she said to me, prior to joining, after having been sitting on the information for weeks: “How can I know I will succeed?”
And when she finally got started, she immediately started looking for reasons not to continue. To the extent that she actually went on the internet looking for “dirt” on the company in order to better justify her reason to quit.
The world is full of people like Greta. Individuals with tremendous potential who are too scared to step outside their comfort zone and be “unsafe.”
It’s not that some people are afraid while others are not…everyone has fears. The question is, can we be bigger than our fears? Can we act in spite of our fears? Can we allow fear to become our friend so that we use fear to help us grow as a human being, instead of allowing it to hold us down and dominate us completely?
That, in fact, is our choice. It’s our choice whether we take control of our feelings or let our feelings control us.
And it’s no small choice: it’s one that will set the course of your life…
Be sure you choose wisely.
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